Help Me Howard Comment

Posted by The Lee P.A.S. Foundation at September 25, 2009 11:17 PM
Howard,

We can’t thank you enough for inviting Dr. Amy Baker on your show. Her work is pivotal for parents and this has proven the result upon the children, is everlasting and emotionally damaging. This is a mourning process that never ends for not just parents but the children as well. It is very unnatural for a child who once had a loving relationship with both parents, to be forced to choose to love one and be angry and hate the other. This is not just a tit-for-tat spat between parents of divorce. It goes much deeper into a cycle of abuse that is learned behavior from past generations.

When I first met Dr. Baker, I had called her due to the fact that I too have been victim as well as my 4 children in an extreme case of alienation. I have joint custody and been denied access slowly over the years after the severe denigration against me. My children have been taught that humans are disposable. I am lucky enough that my youngest son has stayed strong and continued to not allow the anger to take hold and he has always spent time with me as all my children did from the beginning. He has been tormented not just by his dad for still being in my life but soon thereafter by the rest of his siblings. This has so far gone on for 8yrs. Recently, my older son (18) has moved in with me due to the fact that my ex threw him out of his home for talking to me and trying to mend our relationship. He has now been out casted by his father and sisters who refuse to talk with him at all. He has also had to deal with the guilt trips of his dad for being disloyal to him. Does that sound normal to you? The fact is that dad doesn’t have a babysitter for the younger siblings and can’t be the assisting parent to take the kids from point A to B. It is a typical Alienating factor to place guilt, and play the victim in need of help toward the children just to emotionally keep them and have control.

Through her guidance and education, I took it upon myself to learn as much as possible about this since the children are the true victims.

We now Moderate for the NJ Support Group for Parental Alienation in NJ and the tri-state area.

We have a Non-Profit Organization, which in now worldwide along with a weekly podcast radio show, for all targeted children, parents and extended families. I have presented in many places on the subject, including the Canadian Symposium last March. We have just recently started a new program of “Kids Helping Kids”, along with being involved in a research project with Dr. Douglas Darnall PhD, who is also an expert in the field.

We are also the NJ Representative for Lighting Candles Worldwide and Board of Director for Three sides To Every Story, another non-profit for Grandparents that have been denied access to see the children.

We have a Parenting Coach, and advocate that “Children need the love of both fit and loving parents” in order to lead a healthy life.

Too often we are receiving phone calls from children that are cutting themselves to stop the pain, have tried committing suicide in the past, suffering from depression, poor school grades and turning to alcohol and drugs.

In the same aspect, we are receiving devastating calls from parents looking for help, support and resources and are at wits end because they have not seen their children as court ordered.

It is unfortunate that there are so many families and children that are caught up in this sadistic epidemic that most Professionals refuse, pass you along, or try to help the children and families of Alienation since they do not specialize in this area, they can and have done more damage than good. The family court systems are not equipped to make correct and healthy decisions for these children because they are limited or blind to the fact that this is a true problem.

Is it healthy for a child to tell you to “Go slit your wrists and die, I don’t care if you breath anymore, I don’t need a Mommy/Daddy?”

Is it healthy for a child to state that “You hurt Daddy/Mommy because you took all the money and I hate you?”

Is it healthy for a child to say that “Mommy/Daddy says that we can’t see grandma and you anymore because you’re all evil since your rich?”

Is it healthy for a child to say “I don’t need you anymore, daddy will take care of us?”

This is a problem that needs more education for all levels of professionals. Starting in the schools with Dr. Amy Baker’s divorce program of “I Don’t Want To Choose” for middle school children. She is developing for Kindergarten and High school levels as well.

Educate the Forensic Specialists that have your children’s future in their hands to make the suggestions to the courts of “What is best for the children”.

Educate all Judges, Lawyers, GAL’s, Social Workers and don’t give as much power to the under educated Child Protective Services to take children away from a parent with unfounded accusations, or making life decisions that are actually exacerbating the Alienation of the child and parent relationship. This should only be allowed for Parental Alienation Experts to decide "for all court evaluations."

Education is the key, for children, parents, lay persons, and professionals. We intend to help and stay dedicated to Education on the subject of Alienation through our Foundation.

Thank you Dr. Baker! Thank You Howard! We need more open eyes to save the children from this emotional harm.

Katrina C. Daniels Lee
Founder/Exec Director
The Lee PAS Foundation 908-303-4817
www.theleepasfoundation.org
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